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tiny rant thread - things that growing up, in my uptight traditional asian/filipino household, i thought was normal - but not;
tw // abuse , humiliation
before you read this thread just so you know ill be dealing with some topics that can make some people uncomfortable !! also ill be sharing some personal experiences so if you dont relate with it then thats good and well!!
ill never wish this on anyone, the environment ive grown up in isnt the best, but knowing and acknowledging that i went through this will make me a better person for my children (if i ever have any)
1. Corporal punishment - ie. getting spanked, hit, or thrown at multiple times a day or daily (big victim of this as a kid)
2. ALWAYS getting compared to same aged relatives/children of your parents friends - personally, its my mom who does this basically everyday, not a day goes by where she doesnt compare me. i get she says she just wants me to be better but that& #39;s not the way hun.
3. Artistic or & #39;Freelance& #39; jobs are frowned upon - I wanted to be a writer before but after my mom (haha u see the pattern here?) told me that theres no money in that, and that they won& #39;t support me, i just dropped that dream altogether.
4. You& #39;re not successful until you& #39;re a doctor, lawyer, or a high paying job - Honestly, i might as well not exist if i dont plan on pursuing these careers bc im good as 
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5. They demand being taken care off once you start working because thats what & #39;good kids& #39; do - i get this kinda??, but guilt tripping a 16 year old, who BARELY has an idea how to work the world, to find a job @ 18 to support their family,,, uhh no thanks âĄ
6. There& #39;s a really strong stigma that you have to pay them back for all the years they nurtured you - which if u were a good parent, id be glad to, but if half the time you made me feel like shit and yet demand this from me, yeah uh idk
7. Being polite despite how they treat you - this!! many times before my parents scolded me for not giving them the utmost respect, which is true, i wont deny, but i give them what they give me. they demand politeness from me when days on end i get shouted at and disrespected
8. Parent& #39;s not apologizing to their kids, even if they were at fault - ive only ever heard my dad apologize to me, and for things i knew he didnt have control of, but my mom? hell she fought me until i was in tears just to prove a point even if, at the end, she was wrong abt it.
9. Lashing out on the kids when they know they can& #39;t get mad at the person they& #39;re mad at - ive seen this happen so many times to other kids that its disgusting. cant you just get mad at your partner instead of us?? please???
10. Public humiliation - this one stings because i remember being shouted at to walk 3 miles to our house from the party venue because I made a face - which is bad but the punishment was overkill.
11. Lack of privacy for the sole reason that & #39;i saw everything already& #39; or & #39;you might be hiding something& #39; - 1. yes, but did i get to choose to dress up before i got out of the womb? no. 2. im not, all im asking is a little space for myself.
12. "My roof, my rules. Unless you& #39;re willing to move out - which i wont allow you to - you have to follow me."
im not fucking exaggerating my mom told me this and how the hell and i supposed to answer??
im not fucking exaggerating my mom told me this and how the hell and i supposed to answer??
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and im gonna end it here before i remember how shitty my life is but yeah thats the end of my little rant and im really sorry to have to share this and those who mightve gone thru this same thing.
please remember that despite how people or even your parents treat you, you are valid, important, and i love you. never forget that!
