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1/7 i can understand the frustration at seeing young women calling themselves "nonbinary" and "agender" and what feels like "literally anything but a woman" but in my case i honestly feel it had little to do with internalised misogny & more about being susceptible to social
2/7 influences & deferring to outside judgement on important things. when you spend all your time entrenched in an online culture, and everyone in that culture talks about certain facts with such a feeling of authority, you learn to accept them as true - i mean, it made sense to
3/7 me, i knew basically nothing about trans people or being trans, ofc these trans people know better than me, they& #39;re the experts. you hear a lot of things on tumblr: "you don& #39;t have to have dysphoria to be trans" "anyone can be trans" "have you questioned your gender lately?"
4/7 so i questioned. i questioned really hard! i spent hours over days googling "how do you know what your gender is?" and "what does gender feel like?" because ofc i& #39;d done my reading and learned that gender has nothing to do with your biology, appearance, interests or hobbies,
5/7 sexuality, colour preferences, clothing preferences, the way you present, ETC, so i was like well what IS it then? all i got was stuff along the lines of "only you can decide" and "it& #39;s different for everyone" faced with such vague answers & looking inwards for some vague
6/7 metaphysical spiritual concept i couldn& #39;t find all i could think was "maybe i don& #39;t have one of these??" and that& #39;s why i thought i was agender aka didn& #39;t have a gender, was missing that innate sense that apparently everyone else had. bc i had subscribed to the paradigm of
7/7 "everyone has their own gender" and this was the only way for me to understand myself within it.
