I& #39;m so tired of the "real men [blank]" sayings. like the shirt that I saw an ad for on Facebook: "real men cuddle cats." especially when it& #39;s an activity generally seen as feminine. "real men bake" "real men wear pink" "real men spend time with their children"

and then there& #39;s the opposite, meant to convey how very extra manly, they are: "real men drive trucks" "real men carry a gun" "real men go fishing" it& #39;s almost as if it doesn& #39;t matter what a man does, he& #39;s still real.

are you a human being who identifies as a man? congrats, you& #39;re a real man. that& #39;s it.

I guess what I& #39;m saying is, none of that necessarily makes you a *good* man, and maybe that& #39;s where the focus should be.